Be Your Own Girl


be your own girl
As is part of the Rules of January, my dashboard is full up with posts about resolutions, goals and advice - and you know what? I just can't be bothered. I know advice and rules work wonders for some people, but for me it just fills me with "you're not my mother, you can't tell me what to do"-related feelings. So, I'm here to give you some non-advice. I know you know this already, but it's okay to do whatever you want.

Be your own girl (or boy, or whatever else you fancy). Life is so much better when you stop caring so much about what other people think. Be selfish, take care of yourself and do whatever makes you happy. Thrive on your own strengths and make peace with your weaknesses, whatever they may be. Get rid of toxic friendships or boys who make you feel bad about yourself. Write self-indulgent blog posts and post endless selfies on Instagram if you think you look good. Wear whichever clothes you want to, and do your makeup however you like. Hate the things everyone else likes and like the things everyone else hates, if you want to.

Take all those annoying Pinterest quotes and shove them you-know-where. If you want to compare your chapter one to someone else's chapter twenty, do it. If you want to feel a bit sad because you're in your twenties and you don't have your shit together, do it. Allow yourself time to wallow as well as time to be happy.

Life-wise, live in a way that makes you content and safe and happy to wake up every morning. Blog-wise, write in a way that you're proud of and want to read back on yourself, even if no one else is reading. Career-wise, work in a way that gives you whatever you need, whether that be money, security or happiness. Take all advice, even this, (probably especially this) with a pinch of salt.

Do all these things, or don't; everything is completely and utterly up to you.

Gillian x


  1. We all know I love a pinterest quote (they work for me, just not for everyone!), but I love this post! Excellent non-advice :) x

  2. Hahaha, I agree with Lynsey. I read that part and was like, GILLIAN. But I love this post. Ya QT x

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  4. So agree but I do love the fresh start.

    Jackie | fashionxfairytale | bloglovin' |

  5. totally agree with all of thing for this year is 'do you' aka do whatever the f**k you wanna do haha! I've had that mentality for a while but this is the year it will truly come into force :)

  6. i am a pinterest quote WHORE. you will not stop me you scottish bashturd. but i love this post. you are a queen.

  7. Fab post, although I do love a pinterest quote (not that they affect my life)

  8. Loved this! Thank you for adding a bit of perspective in a sea of resolutions and goals - you've helped my sanity!
    Beth x

  9. Absolutely love this post! So true, I almost feel guilty for contributing to the flood of new year/new me bullshit, haha. x


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