Start as You Mean to Go On

I’ve never really thought of myself as a happy-go-lucky sort of person but, you know what, maybe I am. I just take things as they come and, usually, I’m pretty happy with how it all works out in the end. I don’t make big plans for the future and I never make resolutions. I know I’ll never stick to them, so what’s the point?

I was going to fill this post with all the things I’m unhappy with at the moment, and how I want them to change this year. But when I started writing it I realised that actually I wasn’t all that unhappy at all. Yes, I want a new job and to be a stone lighter and to be more confident and to save up some money and to go on a great transatlantic adventure and to organise my life. But there’s no use writing a list of resolutions that will remain untouched for the next twelve months, instead I’ll just take each day as it comes and take opportunities as they meander into my life. I’ll live by that old wisdom “whit’s fur ye’ll no go by ye”. I hope the things I’m not so satisfied with will be different by this time next year, but in the meantime I’ll just be grateful for every day as it is. I’m lucky to have great friends and great family, to wake up every morning in my very favourite city, to be independent and intelligent and altogether not a completely terrible person.

It’s so silly to feel old at 23, and, although I definitely do feel it at times, I need to remind myself that I’m not old. It’s around this age that everyone suddenly seems to be getting married, having babies, buying houses. It’s pretty disheartening always being the one who can’t find a job, the one who’s going to be renting indefinitely, the one who can barely fathom having a long-term boyfriend never mind getting married. But the world is still my oyster, if you will. I can stay out until 5am and have one too many drinks and kiss one too many boys, if I want to. I can squander my money on pretty dresses and garishly pink lipstick instead of mortgage bills. I can spend entire days reading books, curled up in my bed by myself. I can catch a train or a bus or a plane and go anywhere I want to go, even just for the afternoon. Sometimes just knowing I can do all these things is enough.

So, no, I won’t be making any resolutions this year. I just hope my year is filled with “magic and dreams and good madness”. I hope I surprise myself, and I hope life surprises me too. And that’s all I can ask for, really.

I hope your 2014 is just how you’d like it to be, too.

Gillian x


Freelance social media and digital marketing consultant with a penchant for writing blog posts, drinking sickly sweet cocktails and exploring the cobbled streets of Edinburgh.


  • Rachel says:

    Excellent post! My mother quotes that at me every time I feel sad – gotta love old scottish sayings!!

    • Hayley says:

      This definitely seems to be a mum thing. Mine says it all the time and I bought her a tea towel with it on it for Christmas!

  • Jess says:

    Oh I β™₯this post. I feel the same being 23! I don't do soulfulness I do goals. But I like the idea of living each day add it comes.

  • Jackie says:

    That is such a lovely quote and I hope you have a lovely 2014!

    Jackie | fashionxfairytale |

  • Jenn says:

    You're a wise one pal! β™₯

  • What a good way to go! As a 30 year old, there are a lot of things that I need to do this year but I think I will take some of your attitude with me! Thanks for this πŸ™‚

  • Chloe says:

    I hope 2014 is a great year as was last πŸ˜€ I feel unhappy that I can't find the job I desperately want to do either but I'm only 21 so have years until I find the right job for me πŸ™‚ I also want to travel to so many places too but it's the money but ill make sure I'll do it πŸ˜‰
    Good Luck for 2014 πŸ˜€ xxx

  • Rachael says:

    I know what you mean – at 27, although i'm married 3/4 of my school year are now parents – i'm actually one of the few that are married when I come to think about it. Everyone does seem to be buying houses which is bugging me because we've been saving so hard for one too. It's too easy to compare and forget what we've achieved ourselves (sometime I actually blogged about today). One of – and the most important of my resolutions this year is just to be happy, to take whatever life and this year throws at me and throw it back harder.

  • Maria Fallon says:

    Happy new year! I know what you mean with comparisons, it can be so disheartening!

    Maria xxx

  • Beth Bradley says:

    I know what you mean about feeling old, I feel like that at 21 years old and that my life is going slower than everyone elses because I'm not moving out or having a baby but don't compare your beginning to someone else's middle.

    Beth | BethBlogsBeauty

  • Nomad says:

    Don't compare yourself – enjoy being young. You've got the right idea of looking on the bright side of life. Have a great 2014! πŸ™‚ x

  • You're a babeosaurus & I can't wait to have lots more adventures with you lady! X

  • This post filled me with all kinds of happy positive warm glowy feels <3

  • Sarah Anne says:

    I've only recently come across your blog, and this post was a really nice read. Your attitude is a great one, as as one of those getting-married-having-babies types, I definitely recommend you make the most of your life whilst it is still 100% your own!

  • I really love this post πŸ™‚ I think you've captured New Years perfectly for many people, it's not about attempting to change every little niggle in your life and then giving up within a week, sometimes it's best to just take the next 12 months as they are, and see what happens along the way πŸ™‚

    Catriona xo



    Great spin on an old theme : ) your right people need to be more content with where they are cos you're usually exactly where you need to be at that moment : )
    Have a fabulous 2014!

  • Sara says:

    I LOVE this quote and the way you presented it. Any way I could get you to send me a copy to keep as my desktop/wallpaper on my computer?

    • gillian says:

      Of course! Let me know your email address and I'll send it over as soon as possible πŸ™‚

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